You'd never have guessed!

The way a new baby impacts a person, a couple, a family is intense. A complete domino effect. You are warned and you expect some change to yourself as a person, your relationship, and the rest of your family.

Yourself*

I have found that I am a new person entirely I can feel that I have changed and just have to see this when I talk to my old friends. Not the ones who are mums (and now we relate better, and talk more) not the ones who say they'll visit, and do and take interest in your new life and wee baby boy.

I mean the ones who are now scarce. .  say they want to catch up, hey, and sometimes they do! But the awkwardness that's present.. well You don't know what to talk about because your lives are on opposite ends of the spectrum. Being a new young mum my old young friends are still studying, partying and everything else that you do when you're young (yes I've already forgotten. It seemed as soon as he was born I couldn't remember what I did with myself before I had him. .  what did I get up to in my weeks???!!!)

You think, sleep, talk, eat and dream different. .
Heck you probably walk different too!!


Him&Her*

You suddenly argue about everything, how to feed him, how to change him, how to put him to bed, how to settle him, how to interact with him, how to stimulate his brain, how to bath him, how to burp him. . . .  how not to feed him, how not to change him, how not to put him to bed. . . .  Well. You get my drift.

It's hard and nobody really warns you. You know it's coming but not to the extent that it hits you with. It's intense, exhausting. .  but at the same time brings you closer together. I'm grateful for my partner and I'm lucky that he's such a helpful man and father for that matter. Other things come into play like jobs, money, sex, family problems, sleep deprivation. These all impact the day to day things that you suddenly have to carry out as a mother, as a partner.


Family*

I don't know too much about this one as my family has just begun really. We don't have other children/siblings to keep in mind. Be loving towards just as much as ever and include them in the day to day life of the newest addition to the family while juggling the lot. Well done to the mums of 2. .  or more!

I do however know how jealousy would come into play. I have/am experiencing it over my lil button. Not myself but another is. Puzzles me as this particular should be proud to be an Aunty. .  yet is constantly fighting for the same attention and has to have a kitten to keep up with me. Jealousy? Well I think so. I just find it odd as he's not a new sibling she has to compete with. .  it's her nephew something she should be proud of. But then again that takes away from her personality. .  each to their own I guess and she in time will turn.


Fact: babies aren't born with a bridge in their nose, it grows much later - giving them the adorable button nose!

* - based on my experiences
My thoughts, my opinions. Not necessarily the same to anyone else's experiences.