Hurled into the world of single motherdom.

When I woke up today I did not expect this. I actually kept telling Flint "We're going to have a really good day today aren't we?" Purely to just mean he wasn't going to cry literally all day (3-4 hours all up of nice playtime quietness.....) and that I was going to feel quite good as a mum, not like a I-want-to-throw-you-out-the-window-in-a-minute-but-not-literally mum. One minute just having a nice early morning and almost settling my button and then "Huh? What's that banging noise?" Oh it's just my partner with a furniture mover.. took me a few seconds to click. Hang on, we're not moving until Saturday.......... Then it hit me.

So that's the moment I was hurled into this world of single motherdom.

Without going into details that don't need to be gone into this could be a good thing.. This could be the wrong thing. If it's a good thing how long before it turns into a bad thing.. or vice versa.

I just don't like surprises and uncertainty. That's all that my day has been full of. We both have a lot to work on. Both very different things. So now in this empty house unexpectedly alone. I don't know if this is for good, of if it's permanent but I am worried that by the time we each sort our stuff and get our lives rolling again it'll be too late and it would have all moved along.

I know I love him.. which is making this way too hard.

Anyone looking in the window would say "Oh dear, she's bloody beside herself isn't she?" That would be an understatement of the moment! My heads going crazy and I've had a headache from thinking about it all. My eyes sting.... So now my family of four has now turned into a little family of three.. just little button, Rusty (the dog) and me.

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Side note: I just realised when I had created my Google + page the other week I accidently deleted all the albums linked to my google account.. making my page come up with those bloody stupid blue question mark squares as if they're asking how could you be so silly?! Damn it! Bare with me.

There's always a lot to think about..

I always find my mind is going a million miles per hour and I find when I gather my thoughts and go to sit down to write a blog post or talk to my partner it escapes me almost instantly as my mind jumps straight back to mummy things. I find it really hard to separate myself from this. I barely find time to blog and be a new mum - by the way when do I no longer qualify as a 'new' mum? Anybody know?

It's just all so crazy.

I find I learn new things about myself everyday. I learn the new limit my patience is pushed to. I learn how crazy my thoughts can be, how long you can go without a shower (not intentionally) and yes it is possible to be even more and more tired than you thought your body could handle amongst other things.

I've been finding it really hard to withdraw myself from everything as you can so easily get absorbed into the day to day motions of being a mum yet can't get anything that's taunting me off my mind. So I think this calls for a Nanna rescue!

I don't like to burden my Nanna but she is so truly wise. She always has great insights and advice to things and looks after me although it should be the other way around. But I need it. I need her. So I'm sorry dear audience. I've packed my heart and my mind into my suitcase and I'm off to see Nanna's to clear my head, decide on some things and to have a little break from the world (although I'm still bringing the little monster so it does hardly count).. let's hope I make it back or will my stay be that good :P

Only thing, is she doesn't have internet so this is a scheduled blog post (hooray for that option) and I'll have to just do without my four week challenge posts (which need to majorly be sorted out!!) and my tweets which I'm thriving off at the moment. I love my little online family.

Easy peasy cheap dinner idea!!!

When I lived at home and cooked for siblings 10 and 14 this was one of their favourite dinners I'd cook. It's easily adaptable and honestly will only take you a whole 10 minutes including prep and plating up!

Cheap easy and oh so DELICIOUS!


OneMumsJourney Bean Nachos (2-3 people)


1/3c Water
1pkt of French Onion Soup Mix
1 can of Oak Baked Beans in BBQ sauce

1t of Cumin Powder

1T Sweet Chilli Sauce
Nacho Chips
Cheese
Sour Cream


Place water and soup mix in a saucepan on med/high heat. Stir quickly until thickened. Once thickened turn temp down slightly and add baked beans, sauce and cumin. Stir until heated through. Place on plate with chips and add cheese and sour cream if you fancy.
You can throw it in the oven and grill the cheese and chips for a treat! And you're done!
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You can change brands and adapt to what works for your family. It's all about finding the right flavour combination! :D You can easily add two cans and will only need to double Cumin powder and Sweet Chilli but taste it (let your kiddies try too) first cause you might like it the way it is. I've sometimes done the Oak beans and a 4 bean mix to mix it up. It's my turn to dinner meal when I can't be arsed and have no time. .  or patience for cooking! Let me know how you get on if you give it a go. I don't think you'll be dissapointed!

INFACT!
I think I might just do this for dinner tonight.
Writing about it has made me crave a plate of goodness!

You'd never have guessed!

The way a new baby impacts a person, a couple, a family is intense. A complete domino effect. You are warned and you expect some change to yourself as a person, your relationship, and the rest of your family.

Yourself*

I have found that I am a new person entirely I can feel that I have changed and just have to see this when I talk to my old friends. Not the ones who are mums (and now we relate better, and talk more) not the ones who say they'll visit, and do and take interest in your new life and wee baby boy.

I mean the ones who are now scarce. .  say they want to catch up, hey, and sometimes they do! But the awkwardness that's present.. well You don't know what to talk about because your lives are on opposite ends of the spectrum. Being a new young mum my old young friends are still studying, partying and everything else that you do when you're young (yes I've already forgotten. It seemed as soon as he was born I couldn't remember what I did with myself before I had him. .  what did I get up to in my weeks???!!!)

You think, sleep, talk, eat and dream different. .
Heck you probably walk different too!!


Him&Her*

You suddenly argue about everything, how to feed him, how to change him, how to put him to bed, how to settle him, how to interact with him, how to stimulate his brain, how to bath him, how to burp him. . . .  how not to feed him, how not to change him, how not to put him to bed. . . .  Well. You get my drift.

It's hard and nobody really warns you. You know it's coming but not to the extent that it hits you with. It's intense, exhausting. .  but at the same time brings you closer together. I'm grateful for my partner and I'm lucky that he's such a helpful man and father for that matter. Other things come into play like jobs, money, sex, family problems, sleep deprivation. These all impact the day to day things that you suddenly have to carry out as a mother, as a partner.


Family*

I don't know too much about this one as my family has just begun really. We don't have other children/siblings to keep in mind. Be loving towards just as much as ever and include them in the day to day life of the newest addition to the family while juggling the lot. Well done to the mums of 2. .  or more!

I do however know how jealousy would come into play. I have/am experiencing it over my lil button. Not myself but another is. Puzzles me as this particular should be proud to be an Aunty. .  yet is constantly fighting for the same attention and has to have a kitten to keep up with me. Jealousy? Well I think so. I just find it odd as he's not a new sibling she has to compete with. .  it's her nephew something she should be proud of. But then again that takes away from her personality. .  each to their own I guess and she in time will turn.


Fact: babies aren't born with a bridge in their nose, it grows much later - giving them the adorable button nose!

* - based on my experiences
My thoughts, my opinions. Not necessarily the same to anyone else's experiences.